Benjamin Arrives

I’ve been thinking a lot about my father lately.

Ask anyone that knew him and I know they’ll tell you that he was a wonderful, wonderful man. To my sister and I he was also a fantastic dad. The best in fact.

But isn’t that what everyone says about their dad?

My dad used to explain to me how his own father never had any time for him growing up and that he was determined things would be different with us kids. It was. Together we built tree houses and go-karts, made rope swings and skateboard ramps. He’d take me fishing at 5am because I said that was the time the fish fed and he’d spend hours on a freezing cold beach waiting for me to come out of the surf.

I had a great childhood because I had a great dad.

He wanted us to be happy at home and so our garden was like an ewok village with rope bridges going from tree to tree. He put up swings, slides and trampolines. He took us places, instilled moral values, supported us, cared. He’d do it all even when he was exhausted or had other things on his mind. More than once he wouldn’t quite make it to the end of reading us a story before falling asleep as he was so tired after a hard day at work. Looking back, it’s simply amazing the kind of stuff he’d do for us. He gave us everything. Time, energy and most importantly love and I’m so incredibly grateful to him for it all.

So how on earth do you follow an example like that? To be responsible for and make the most of the incredible privilege of shaping a little life. To provide materially for that life, teach, entertain, discipline, inspire, encourage, console, support and everything else that goes with fatherhood.

A few weeks ago something amazing happened that changed our lives forever. I keep thinking how much dad would have loved to have shared these moments with us and how nothing ever feels quite the same now he’s gone.

He would have been an amazing grandad.

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  • Alex, you made me sob.

    Every frame is special, and intimate, and full of love and hope and promise and memory. Your dad would have been proud to see how successful you are in your work, proud to see that beautiful woman you married, and proud to see that bundle of joy you made together.

    It’s so sad you lost him, and I know you’ll always feel the void, but you have an important role to play in Benjamin’s life now, and it must be so special to know that he will feel the same way about you as you felt about your father.

    Congratulations on B’s arrival, can’t wait to meet him and Soma, and see you again for a catch up!

    Scott & Jo xReplyCancel

  • Oh my goodenss Alex!!! This is one of the most moving things I’ve ever read/seen! Benjamin is so fortunate to have you as a Dad because you’ve learnt from one of the best 🙂 x p.s How does Soma manage to look so beautiful in labour?!ReplyCancel

  • Alex, this is beautiful, and so is baby Benjamin! You’ve brought a tear to my eye, and that was before I even pressed play. Congratulations to you and Soma, Fred would be such a proud Grandad! Lots of love to the three of you! xxReplyCancel

  • What a beautiful post so intimate and delicate 🙂 lovely Alex. Congrats to you and Soma on your lovely little man xxReplyCancel

  • Giles

    I’m pretty sure that he was not only looking after his son but teaching him how to carry on to become first a great father then an equally impressive grandfather.
    From what I know and see he did a fine job.
    Clearly he still is an amazing grandad, through you.
    Congratulation to you both. I hope that one day a guy called Benjamin turns up on our door whilst travelling and explains that Dad said he had a friend in WA who owes him one and can he stay a while? No worries mate!ReplyCancel

  • Very emotional.ReplyCancel

  • So touching and sweet! What a beautiful family.ReplyCancel

  • Absolutely love that second to last frame. You’ll be an awesome Dad my friend.

  • Thanks for sharing dudeReplyCancel

  • Robin

    Wow mate, very moving, no material things match those images for value, brilliant, thanks for sharing and love to you both.ReplyCancel

  • Wow… totally brought tears to my eyes. That was beautiful.ReplyCancel

  • first of all, congratulations on your little boy. babies are absolutely the most incredible gift we could ever ask for. secondly, these are just beautiful. i love the way you told your story here. there are so many great photos in here but i have to point out that there is something so great about that photo towards the end with your wife looking at the camera. she looks so graceful and serene there.ReplyCancel

  • Absolutely beautiful. I’m speechless!ReplyCancel

  • Beautiful memories thank you so much for sharing that. 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Thank you for sharing part of your life with us.

    God bless you and your family.ReplyCancel

  • So beautiful and emotional, thank you for sharing and congratulations!ReplyCancel

  • Amanda

    I cried before I pressed play, and then again after I pressed play. That is a truly amazing video, your so talented and your dad would have been so proud. B is beautiful and so is Soma even while in labour! Thank you for sharing your memories. Keiran & Amanda xxReplyCancel